Hello friends,

Over the years, through my own life, through teaching, and through walking beside many clients, I’ve noticed something both simple and confronting:

No one is responsible for our emotions but us.

No one outside of us is responsible for our emotions, our joy, our sadness, or our pain. And yet, so many of us were taught the opposite. From a young age, we absorbed the idea that others cause how we feel. That if someone’s actions change, or their tone softens, or their attention turns tow…

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Today I want to explore something we rarely talk about, the dark side of meditation.
We often hear meditation described in terms of light, peace, calm, and presence. And while all of that can be true, what if everything that holds light also carries a shadow? What if even something as sacred and transformative as meditation can hide within it a subtle form of denial, arrogance, or avoidance?

I’ve been meditating since my mid-twenties, and over the years I’ve witnesse…

When we look at the literal idea of trigger points in the body, some of us do not actually feel pain. We are not aware of it. Many of us, myself included, have become numbed out to it. I do not typically wake up with a sense of pain or tension anywhere in my body. That has been true for at least the last fifteen years.

Yet when I take a foam roller to my body, I find areas that are holding tension, places where energy is blocked, where nourishment and oxygen are lacking. The cells there cannot pr…

When we look at the literal idea of trigger points in the body, some of us do not actually feel pain. We are not aware of it. Many of us, myself included, have become numbed out to it. I do not typically wake up with a sense of pain or tension anywhere in my body. That has been true for at least the last fifteen years.

Yet when I take a foam roller to my body, I find areas that are holding tension, places where energy is blocked, where nourishment and oxygen are lacking. The cells there cannot pr…

There’s a quiet power in the language of reparenting, the language of healing, and the journey of becoming your own guru.

For me, this means slowly learning to trust what arises within, your instincts, your gut, your inner knowing. It also means noticing when and how you give that power away.

We often hand our authority to people, places, or things that we’ve unconsciously placed on pedestals. When we elevate others to unreachable heights, we keep ourselves small. The paradox is that as long as we…

When you try to help yourself, sometimes you wonder: is it worth it?

A friend recently shared that she got divorced, and now she questions if it was worth it, her divorce was born our of her awakening to living a life that was not in alignment with who she had become. Her words carried something deeper.

Her struggle, “was it worth it?” is a real one. Every choice comes with both benefits and challenges. Staying the same has benefits. Changing has benefits. Each path also has costs. Often, parts of…

Most weeks I write about the mental and emotional side of healing, because those are the areas many of us feel and notice most immediately. Yet our health is not one-dimensional. The mind and body are in constant conversation. What affects digestion shapes mood, and what affects mood shapes digestion.

This week I want to turn toward the physical, and share about cooking, digestion, and gut healing not as a separate topic, but as part of the same bi-directional influence that runs through every pa…

Hello friends,

Today I want to explore the law of facilitation.

The principle comes from neurology:

When an impulse has passed through a certain set of neurons to the exclusion of others, it will tend to take the same course on a future occasion. And each time it traverses this path, the resistance in the path will be smaller.

In simple terms: the more often you make a choice, hold a perspective, or repeat a behavior, the easier it becomes for your mind and body to do it again. Energy follows the fa…

Where Is Your Mind Welded Shut?

Sit with this slide.

Credit: Paul Chek / CHEK Institute

Let it sink in.

What does it mean for you to see the words: Don’t let your schooling get in the way of your education?

And what does it mean to notice the imagery, humans getting their heads welded shut?

My invitation is simple:

Where is your mind welded shut?

Education and Conditioning

Many of us have spent a tremendous amount of money on education, downloading information based on other people’s ideas, research, and…

And away we go..

When we start looking closely at who we think we are, we often encounter something unexpected: the roles we play in life and the identities we carry with us.

Sometimes they overlap, sometimes they blur together, and sometimes they create confusion.

Am I the role I play?
Am I the story I tell?
Or is there something beneath all of that, something closer to pure experience without complex thought?

Stories, Roles, and Survival

In my work with clients, and in my own life, I’ve noticed that …